I'm "Out" At Work Now

So I "came out" to my boss today about our struggle with infertility, and she was amazingly supportive. I was nervous, but I was able to get through it with no tears. I've been missing quite a bit of work lately, due to all of my testing, and I can only guess how much more I'll need to miss, so I wanted to share with her what is going on. Honestly, I think she was more emotional during the conversation than I was, because she struggled with infertility too. We had a really positive discussion and I wanted to share some of what we talked about.

She has two children (I think the youngest one is probably 2 and the oldest is maybe 6). The first one, she and her husband were able to conceive with no problem, but they struggled with secondary infertility the second time around. They tried for 2 1/2 years to conceive, with no success. They finally went to an RE, and were not given a whole lot of hope. She didn't mention her diagnosis (we didn't really discuss "specifics"; just a general conversation about infertility) but said that she had a horrible allergic reaction to Clomid, which she ended up in the ER for. She also suffered a miscarriage at some point in there as well. Anyway, they were at a crossroads and weren't sure what to do, and then they conceived their youngest.

I think what hit me the most about this discussion that I had with her, is how emotional she got when discussing it. It clearly still bothers her. Infertility isn't something I'm going to get rid of when I get pregnant and my struggle getting pregnant is always going to stay with me. I'm really, really glad I told her, because now I don't feel like I have to worry about my job when I'm gone for treatments. I know she understands, and is pulling for me, and I trust that she's not going to tell anyone else in my office.

One of the things my boss and I discussed is how much more likely people who have struggled, are to be appreciative of their children. My boss said she loves both of her daughters, of course, but when she looks at her youngest, she'll never forget what almost didn't happen.